Jack

Well Jessica, intervention went fair. Denial was the norm. When we told here she has a good chance of being arrested, it didn’t have that much inpact, which is also the norm I guess.

I guess I have to realize that people like my daughter aren’t in there normal frame of mine, especially when the brain’s cells are actually damaged in some cases of extended drug use.

Place of therapy has me running back and forth. Seems like they would want to just put her in there, but they are feeling out the caring of the family and her willingness to go, I guess.

Gee, Jessica, pretty wild comment under your name yesterday. Ha ha. I would have turned my head the other way, trust me. Ha ha. Yeah, right. Ha ha.

How do you get those signature-like phrases to change automatically? Neat.

All have a very nice day, and let us all pray for the victims and families of the bridge accident.

Jack

You definitely have good insight, as you realized that you were the better person. As human beings, whether we are women or men, we have to consider ourselves as worth a lot, and when wronged, not blame ourselves.

Whatever comes of the wrong done to us, we have to have a positive attitude and tell ourselves we are great people, because we are.

As for friends helping you that you have never met, I have received a lot of help from friends I haven’t actually met.

Anyway, I don’t want to run this into the ground, but you take the best of care, and hope to run into you on the email/blog circuit sometime/someplace.

Best regards, Jack

Welcome to my blog and thank you so much for your comments. I appreciate your insight and you are completely right.

I know that I should let it go.

The thing that hurts the most is that I was trying to help her and make her life better–lend a little support. It was like trying to save a drowning person, though. She tried to bring me down.

I have finally worked through the hurt and, where I once felt badly about being so naive, I have realized it really wasn’t my fault. Not blaming myself anymore has allowed me to get angry at her (finally) but I have resolved to let it go in short order. It is support from friends (and friends I haven’t met yet!) that will allow me to do that.

Thank you for your encouraging words and I hope that you will return!

Jessica

Not very good at this sort of thing, but will attempt to give some advice.

Obviously, this was a very tramatic experience for you, and a very negative one.

However, we are not here for very long, so to keep thinking and dwelling on this person will only result in your getting more and more bitter, and bringing your blood pressure too high, and your health down.

I have been there, and have observed this in others. You sound like a very neat person who obviously has gotten a hard blow from another person.

Bringing out an apology from another person who has done you terribly wrong won’t work. They may apologize, but you will forevermore have that nagging feeling in your head that things just aren’t the same. They won’t be, unless that person comes to you and ‘from the bottom of her heart’ apolgizes to you.

I have been there.

Besides, you are too good for that. Move on and have sympathy for a person who has done something that terrible and doesn’t even feel like she should apologize to you for having done it.

Someday she may, but for now, move on and don’t let it tear you apart, Dwelling on it will affect your relationships with others, and will also affect your health more than you know.

Find a lot of activities to do with nice friends, and maybe join an exercise group.

Just my crude advice.

Best regards, Jack (an older, but a ‘been there’ guy)